Getting that one guy YOU want..

Unfortunately for most of us we always seem to fall head over heels for a man that never wants to commit is is completely unobtainable. Usually its because we go the wrong way about it, for years I suffered chasing and persisting with the men i wanted and through experience, trial and error I finally figured out how to catch my prey.

you say you want a relationship? But the guys don't want to settle down with you? The answer is that somewhere along the way, you're aren't playing the game or at least playing it correctly. There are a few easy steps to getting the guy you want, and it comes from the same way guys get women's attention.

My first very big tip in anything in life is BELEIF, make sure you believe you will have him, tell yourself you will turn over every rock to be with the one you want! If you don't believe in yourself then he wont believe in you either.

Show you're interested, once

So you see the guy you like across the room, and you notice he's checking you out, here's your chance to say I like you too. You could:

• Make eye contact. Call him over with your eyes so that he knows you're interested

• Smile so that he knows you're friendly

• Wink, a little flirting never hurt anyone.

After this you shouldn't flood his phone with calls or put any more effort into showing him you care. You gave him your number didn't you? That's enough to let him know you're interested. now its up to him.

Don't call him

So you got his attention. Now you just have to wait on the call or the text. Never call him, ever. Until you feel established enough as a couple or at least being exclusive, let him do the work. If he wants you, he'll show you by calling. If he doesn't call, he isn't thinking about you.The rules of men are simple while us women sit and ponder reasons on why he actually hasn't called like "oh he's too shy" or "maybe he thinks i'll call him" fact of the matter is men are predators and like to catch their prey. No one wants it easy and thats simple. It is time to move back to step one with a new guy if you don't hear from him, its warning bells he's not for you.

Get a life

Do not, I repeat, do not sit by the phone waiting on him to call you. It is not attractive. What is great aboutrelationships is that you have two people bringing something to the plate to talk about so that they can get to know each other. No one wants a girl who has no depth to her except when it comes to pleasing her man. Get a hobby and get used to loving yourself.

Be sociable with your friends and never lose your Independence.I lived with a guy once and totally lost who I was and most of my friends. I was so wrapped up in him that we actually broke up because I almost smothered him, when he left me I could barely function without him. So big mistake to lose your identity all for him because he won't do it for you.

Keep your options open

Always keep in mind that until you are in a committed relationship, there is no reason not to play the field. Just because you meet one new guy does not mean you have to drop every guy you are talking to at the moment. Dating is all about the elimination process. You date so that you can figure out what it is you want in a guy. Also keeping your options open means getting rid of the ones who do not fit your standards. Test and try.

Give them a chance

Give these guys a chance. I have seen girls eliminate great guys from their choices because of some small things that could easily be fixed such as a bad pair of shoes. Come on girls, if he is great in all the other areas, does a pair of dusty shoes really matter? ok if you cant get past the whole shoe thing then I can probably say that if your intuition is so strong that you can barely stand the thought of hi name, fair enough he may not be the one for you but at the same time don't discourage him too for the petty things just because your scared of getting hurt. Life and love are a risk and sometimes if you don't take the risk you'll never know.